About Dr. Troyer


The Short Version

I am a psychology professor, author, speaker, and former counselor who specializes in grief. I’ve published academic works on grief, but realized that I could make better use of my knowledge and experience by sharing high-quality, modern grief information in an easy-to-understand way.

Random Details

  • I am originally from Iowa.  (Pella is my hometown)
  • I’ve experienced grief and loss (but this blog isn’t about my personal experiences)
  • I received my PhD in Counseling Psychology from the University of Kansas.
  • Kansas City barbecue is the best. Period.
  • I wrote my first grief booklet after we needed to euthanize our family dog. 
  • I’m allergic to dogs
  • I worked in the Pella Window factory during the summers to help pay for college.
  • I like to eat my lunch in my car in a cemetery. 
  • I’m allergic to cats.
  • I grieve family members who died before I was born.
  • I’m allergic to rabbits.
  • Chicken-fried steak with gravy and mashed potatoes is heaven on a plate.
  • I once spent a summer in Iceland. It’s beautiful there
  • I’ve ridden a horse, Indiana Jones-style, to see the Treasury Building in Petra, Jordan. (And yes, I’m also allergic to horses.)
  • I live in east Tennessee with my wife and daughters.

Longer Version

I was giving a presentation at a professional conference when I realized something. I was speaking to the same 20 people who showed up to my presentation the previous year. That was the beginning of the shift from academic research to practical application.

As a professor, I know the value of good research and professional organizations. But as I stood before my professional colleagues, I began to realize that lots of good information and research on grief and loss was being generated and yet the typical grieving person was still receiving outdated and unhelpful myths about grief and loss. Perhaps I could help more by taking cutting edge research and information and making it useful and applicable for the typical person. Thus the birth of this website and other books and materials.